Saturday
Your life sucks because you expect it to suck...
Contrary to popular belief, you are in control of our life.
You may believe, based on what you have been taught,
that other people have at least some control over your destiny.
Understand that this is not the case…unless you allow it to be.
Don’t Exist to Survive, Exist to Flourish
An ant works all day and at the end of the day it’s still an ant and it’s still working. In order to break from the habits of the ant, you simply need to choose to do so. Don’t let life happen to you; you need to happen to life.
I call this the zombie phase. You are alive,yes. But you are dead inside.
Ever felt that way? Been there, and believe me dahling it's no fun.
Don’t Allow Other People’s Limits Control You
Your expectations of life were developed as a child. Your beliefs and views of the world depend on how your parents, grandparents, friends, and teachers interacted with you.
Some people think that they will never be rich or treated fairly because of their skin color. Others think they need the government to help them get ahead because their parents thought they needed the government. One friend told you that being rich was simply good fortune; that you had to win life’s lottery in order to make it. Your uncle told you that it’s impossible to live comfortably without borrowing money.
These people have set limits on you and you are allowing those limits to control your life. If this is one of the things that is limiting you... well I think it's a load of crap!
Don’t Manufacture or Invite Pain
Do you believe that life has to be difficult? We always hear “Life’s a bitch and then you die.” (I've conquered this btw, Life may be a bitch but so am I) Sometimes we invite pain because we don’t feel comfortable without it. Pain is at least a sign that you’re still alive, right? But does it help us or hold us back?
Say this to yourself a few times: I don’t owe anyone anything and I am not responsible for others.
We bring pain on ourselves when we feel that we need to repay that which was given to us as a gift, or when we try to take responsibility for others.
A good friend once told me, Rhonda, YOU are always #1.
If number 1 deteriorates or becomes mediocre, what good are you to others?
Fix Yourself, Don’t Affix Blame
Be accountable for your past, present, and future. Whatever has happened thus far is your fault and whatever is going to happen in the future is also your fault. If you affix blame and live life as a victim, you will stay a victim forever. Victims do not realize dreams and goals, proactive people do.
Ewww in my book, being a victim is a no no. Two things here, you are stupid enough to think you are beyond reproach and that it is always somebody elses fault... or stupid enough to think others have always wronged you. Still boils down to one thing Dahling, STUPIDITY!
Forgive Others To Release Their Control Of You
Face whatever has been done to you in the past, recover from it, and then forgive. When you fail to forgive, you allow the unforgiven person or thing to control you forever. It will be a constant weight hooked to your ankles that you choose to drag around for your entire life. You choose to drag it because you can also choose to break the chain at any time. Face it, accept it, recover from it, and forgive.
This was once my biggest problem. A dear friend of mine - Denise Roberts (she has passed on now) told me that I was better than God because I couldnt forgive my step mother from things in the past. I was shocked and was about to say something when she interjected and said - "even God forgave people from killing his only son. " I chewed on that one for awhile. What she said made sense to me even if I didn't have a whole lot of God in my heart at that time.
Think Positive Of Yourself and Your Life
Cultivate an indomitable spirit. Believe you can and will succeed. Make a list of positive statements about yourself and read them everyday. Do not make excuses or put yourself down in conversations with others or with yourself. And analyze the people you come in contact with on a regular basis. Are these negative people or positive people? Your friends should support you and lift you up, not depress you and drag you down to their level. Believe in yourself and others will believe in you.
Suppress Drama and Embrace Reality
If you notice, the drama queens always have drama in their life. Drama doesn’t find them, they find the drama. That’s because drama is a choice.
It’s also important to understand that drama limits you. It is a tool of victims. The more drama you allow in your life, the more you will lose sight of your goals. Drama does not create progress, it forbids it.
If you are around people who always experience drama of one type or another, think about distancing yourself from that person. You don’t need the baggage that comes with constant drama.
Drama? No thanks.
Don't like me? Your problem.
Love me or hate me.
Girl please, I'm still gonna shine.
Fulfill Your Own Wants and Needs
Many people are caught up in putting other’s first. It is ingrained in a lot of us during childhood. Let your friends go first, serve the guests first, hold the door for others, etc. So when it comes to true needs and wants,
we often transfer those learned behaviors and suppress ourselves. Make your own wants and needs a number one priority. But I must add that in setting priorities, we also have to learn the word COMPROMISE.
Leave the Past Where it Belongs
The past is just that-the past. What happened in the past does not necessarily allude to what is going to happen in the future. Each new career, new relationship, and new friendship have their own unique potential. If you were let down in the past, you can't let that affect your present and future. They aren't the same. If you live in the past, you will constantly live in a self fulfilling prophecy. Your life will suck because you expect it to suck. It's that simple. This is another form of drama and not accepting responsibilty for your actions.
Realize that the Enemy is You
We have met the enemy, and he/she is us.
In order to conquer the outside, you must first conquer the inside. Look to yourself. We hold ourselves back more than anyone else has the power to. When you realize this is the reality you will find it easier to deal with your issues and make progress toward your goals.
Love yourself...
Face reality...
Rip off those masks and let others accept you for who you are.
If you can't accept the real you...who will?
Someone will always be smarter, prettier or richer than you are. Competing with others will get you nowhere.
You wanna talk shit about me...
thats fine.
You wanna think shit about me...
thats fine.
You wanna start shit about me...
thats fine.
You wanna hate me...
thats fine.
Starting to get the picture?
I don't care.
Love me or Leave me.
What you think of me is non of my business.
You may believe, based on what you have been taught,
that other people have at least some control over your destiny.
Understand that this is not the case…unless you allow it to be.
Don’t Exist to Survive, Exist to Flourish
An ant works all day and at the end of the day it’s still an ant and it’s still working. In order to break from the habits of the ant, you simply need to choose to do so. Don’t let life happen to you; you need to happen to life.
I call this the zombie phase. You are alive,yes. But you are dead inside.
Ever felt that way? Been there, and believe me dahling it's no fun.
Don’t Allow Other People’s Limits Control You
Your expectations of life were developed as a child. Your beliefs and views of the world depend on how your parents, grandparents, friends, and teachers interacted with you.
Some people think that they will never be rich or treated fairly because of their skin color. Others think they need the government to help them get ahead because their parents thought they needed the government. One friend told you that being rich was simply good fortune; that you had to win life’s lottery in order to make it. Your uncle told you that it’s impossible to live comfortably without borrowing money.
These people have set limits on you and you are allowing those limits to control your life. If this is one of the things that is limiting you... well I think it's a load of crap!
Don’t Manufacture or Invite Pain
Do you believe that life has to be difficult? We always hear “Life’s a bitch and then you die.” (I've conquered this btw, Life may be a bitch but so am I) Sometimes we invite pain because we don’t feel comfortable without it. Pain is at least a sign that you’re still alive, right? But does it help us or hold us back?
Say this to yourself a few times: I don’t owe anyone anything and I am not responsible for others.
We bring pain on ourselves when we feel that we need to repay that which was given to us as a gift, or when we try to take responsibility for others.
A good friend once told me, Rhonda, YOU are always #1.
If number 1 deteriorates or becomes mediocre, what good are you to others?
Fix Yourself, Don’t Affix Blame
Be accountable for your past, present, and future. Whatever has happened thus far is your fault and whatever is going to happen in the future is also your fault. If you affix blame and live life as a victim, you will stay a victim forever. Victims do not realize dreams and goals, proactive people do.
Ewww in my book, being a victim is a no no. Two things here, you are stupid enough to think you are beyond reproach and that it is always somebody elses fault... or stupid enough to think others have always wronged you. Still boils down to one thing Dahling, STUPIDITY!
Forgive Others To Release Their Control Of You
Face whatever has been done to you in the past, recover from it, and then forgive. When you fail to forgive, you allow the unforgiven person or thing to control you forever. It will be a constant weight hooked to your ankles that you choose to drag around for your entire life. You choose to drag it because you can also choose to break the chain at any time. Face it, accept it, recover from it, and forgive.
This was once my biggest problem. A dear friend of mine - Denise Roberts (she has passed on now) told me that I was better than God because I couldnt forgive my step mother from things in the past. I was shocked and was about to say something when she interjected and said - "even God forgave people from killing his only son. " I chewed on that one for awhile. What she said made sense to me even if I didn't have a whole lot of God in my heart at that time.
Think Positive Of Yourself and Your Life
Cultivate an indomitable spirit. Believe you can and will succeed. Make a list of positive statements about yourself and read them everyday. Do not make excuses or put yourself down in conversations with others or with yourself. And analyze the people you come in contact with on a regular basis. Are these negative people or positive people? Your friends should support you and lift you up, not depress you and drag you down to their level. Believe in yourself and others will believe in you.
Suppress Drama and Embrace Reality
If you notice, the drama queens always have drama in their life. Drama doesn’t find them, they find the drama. That’s because drama is a choice.
It’s also important to understand that drama limits you. It is a tool of victims. The more drama you allow in your life, the more you will lose sight of your goals. Drama does not create progress, it forbids it.
If you are around people who always experience drama of one type or another, think about distancing yourself from that person. You don’t need the baggage that comes with constant drama.
Drama? No thanks.
Don't like me? Your problem.
Love me or hate me.
Girl please, I'm still gonna shine.
Fulfill Your Own Wants and Needs
Many people are caught up in putting other’s first. It is ingrained in a lot of us during childhood. Let your friends go first, serve the guests first, hold the door for others, etc. So when it comes to true needs and wants,
we often transfer those learned behaviors and suppress ourselves. Make your own wants and needs a number one priority. But I must add that in setting priorities, we also have to learn the word COMPROMISE.
Leave the Past Where it Belongs
The past is just that-the past. What happened in the past does not necessarily allude to what is going to happen in the future. Each new career, new relationship, and new friendship have their own unique potential. If you were let down in the past, you can't let that affect your present and future. They aren't the same. If you live in the past, you will constantly live in a self fulfilling prophecy. Your life will suck because you expect it to suck. It's that simple. This is another form of drama and not accepting responsibilty for your actions.
Realize that the Enemy is You
We have met the enemy, and he/she is us.
In order to conquer the outside, you must first conquer the inside. Look to yourself. We hold ourselves back more than anyone else has the power to. When you realize this is the reality you will find it easier to deal with your issues and make progress toward your goals.
Love yourself...
Face reality...
Rip off those masks and let others accept you for who you are.
If you can't accept the real you...who will?
Someone will always be smarter, prettier or richer than you are. Competing with others will get you nowhere.
You wanna talk shit about me...
thats fine.
You wanna think shit about me...
thats fine.
You wanna start shit about me...
thats fine.
You wanna hate me...
thats fine.
Starting to get the picture?
I don't care.
Love me or Leave me.
What you think of me is non of my business.
When shadows grow longer
Because everything's blind in the sleep of the lonely - take a look towards the forest and you will meet your insignificance.
HOW SMART IS YOUR RIGHT FOOT?
You have to try this please, it takes
2 seconds. I could not believe this!
It is from an orthopedic surgeon.
This will boggle your mind and you will
keep trying over and over again to see
if you can outsmart your foot,
but, you can't.
It's pre-programmed in your brain!
1. Without anyone watching you
(they will think you are GOOFY....)
and while sitting at your desk in
front of your computer, lift your
right foot off the floor and make
clockwise circles.
2. Now, while doing this, draw the
number ..6′ in the air with your right
hand. Your foot will change direction.
I told you so!!! And there's nothing you
can do about it! You and I both know how
stupid it is, but before the day is done
you are going to try it again, if you've
not already done so.
2 seconds. I could not believe this!
It is from an orthopedic surgeon.
This will boggle your mind and you will
keep trying over and over again to see
if you can outsmart your foot,
but, you can't.
It's pre-programmed in your brain!
1. Without anyone watching you
(they will think you are GOOFY....)
and while sitting at your desk in
front of your computer, lift your
right foot off the floor and make
clockwise circles.
2. Now, while doing this, draw the
number ..6′ in the air with your right
hand. Your foot will change direction.
I told you so!!! And there's nothing you
can do about it! You and I both know how
stupid it is, but before the day is done
you are going to try it again, if you've
not already done so.
Sea Shell Fetish
Oh, you just know there's a body out there floating around with a punctured lung.
Sometimes ''Take it all!'' is just an expression. Chill out. Overzealous all-taking can lead to complications. It's all fun and games until someone loses an ovary, you know what I'm saying? One minute you're getting brave at the beach, the next minute you're floating around in the ocean and they're finding this thing nearby to help CSI figure it all out. And quit going to the beach to do that. I don't care about your sea shell fetish.
Look...
If you look inside a girl's heart
and see how much she cries
you will find secrets,
best friends and lies -
but what you'll see the most
is how hard it is to stay strong
when nothing is right
and everything is wrong...
and see how much she cries
you will find secrets,
best friends and lies -
but what you'll see the most
is how hard it is to stay strong
when nothing is right
and everything is wrong...
Creeper in my apartment...
When a New York man discovered food missing from his apartment, he initially thought it was his girlfriend. When she denied any involvement in the matter, he put out a hidden camera to get to the bottom of the mystery. When he reviewed the tape, he made a shocking discovery. Apparently at some point a woman broke into his home, discovered a crawlspace above his kitchen and decided to move in. Aside from stealing food, the uninvited guest was also apparently using the kitchen sink as a urinal! When the police came and arrested the woman, they estimated she had been living in the apartment for at least a couple of weeks (possibly even longer).
I have to say this video is quite possibly the second most creepy thing I have ever seen or experienced.
*UPDATE:
-The person in the video is Joe Cummings.
"Yes, I found out the hard way that I had an uninvited guest living in my apartment, sharing my food and drinks and pissing in my sink. Talk about a creepy situation... only in the big apple....
So I have been inundated with questions since this was posted and I thought it wise to give answers to some of the most frequently asked questions."
#1 - Are you sh#ting me?
A - No, this is every bit as real and messed up as it seems
#2 - What did you do when you saw the footage?
A - I immediately left my apartment and called the police.
#3 - Who is that girl?
A - I have no idea, she didn't say much when the cops came and took her.
#4 - What was it she actually climbed down from?
A - It is a storage loft/area in the apartment. It has no connection to any outside ventilation or anything of that such. It does go pretty deep back in there, almost all the way to over the stove/kitchen area. She had set up a little nook for herself.
#5 - How did she get in there?
A - I have no idea, the only way she could have gotten in is through the window, as I am on the top floor and there is a fire escape. The police think she was probably coming in to rob me when I was gone and decided to stow away in the crawl space. Supposedly this isn't the first time the cops had come across something like this.
#6 - How long was she in your apartment?
A - The police officers thought it looked as though she had been there for at least a couple weeks, although could have been longer.
I have to say this video is quite possibly the second most creepy thing I have ever seen or experienced.
*UPDATE:
-The person in the video is Joe Cummings.
"Yes, I found out the hard way that I had an uninvited guest living in my apartment, sharing my food and drinks and pissing in my sink. Talk about a creepy situation... only in the big apple....
So I have been inundated with questions since this was posted and I thought it wise to give answers to some of the most frequently asked questions."
#1 - Are you sh#ting me?
A - No, this is every bit as real and messed up as it seems
#2 - What did you do when you saw the footage?
A - I immediately left my apartment and called the police.
#3 - Who is that girl?
A - I have no idea, she didn't say much when the cops came and took her.
#4 - What was it she actually climbed down from?
A - It is a storage loft/area in the apartment. It has no connection to any outside ventilation or anything of that such. It does go pretty deep back in there, almost all the way to over the stove/kitchen area. She had set up a little nook for herself.
#5 - How did she get in there?
A - I have no idea, the only way she could have gotten in is through the window, as I am on the top floor and there is a fire escape. The police think she was probably coming in to rob me when I was gone and decided to stow away in the crawl space. Supposedly this isn't the first time the cops had come across something like this.
#6 - How long was she in your apartment?
A - The police officers thought it looked as though she had been there for at least a couple weeks, although could have been longer.
FOREVER'S NOT SO LONG...
If you like indie films, you'll probably like this short. Written and directed by Shawn Morrison, it is about discovering how "the end of the world is the perfect time to loose everything." This is one of those rare little gems of cinema.
Forever's Not So Long from garrettmurray on Vimeo.
Accepting and understanding...
Most everyone around the world is prejudice in different ways, some more extreme than others; but no matter how extreme the prejudice is it will always have a negative effect. People have always had and will always have their differences, but we do not have to be so ignorant and discriminate against different ideas, races, sexual orientation, or religions;(even though most denominations cause discrimination themselves.) Though I also don't agree with people slapping other people in the face with their life styles. Whether it be a racist not treating one person as fairly as the other for obvious reasons of being a racist, or a very religious person telling you what their beliefs are for the consequences of your actions while trying to convince you that they are right about what they are telling you.
Racism
Also if you're a racist have you ever had that half a brain cell telling you to stop and think why you don't like different skin color so much, to just hate the person that it's on? There is not much else to say other than that, because it is just a color after all. The fact is no matter what the skin color is we are all people, we like to have fun, we love, and we dream. So if you are a racist, you are exactly like the racial dictators that have started wars. The ONLY difference is, is that most of you don't have any power to do anything with your close minded opinions.
Discriminating Gays
If you're straight, do you think you are attracted to the same sex? No. So why should being homosexual, lesbian, gay, bi or what ever you want to call it be any different? It only takes common since to realize that it is just as much of a choice to be straight as it is to be gay/bi. If you think about it instead of just throwing it off as an abomination, why would people CHOOSE to risk getting bashed, disowned by their family, and the stress it must involve when in an area not open to it when "coming out"? Although there are people that probably become gay/bi because of their own life experience, (or for the lesser majority) they might do it for attention, but the majority are guaranteed to actually be gay for those who claim it. It has been around since the beginning of time. If you are still unsatisfied with that much information, and you think something as close minded as "well god wouldn't make people that way since it is a sin", or anything else, then maybe knowing that there is scientific information to support that being gay/bi is not a choice might change your mind. Being gay/bi is in the blood, BUT even if it was a choice, why can't you just let it go? Does it really hurt you that much to where you have to drive them to depression, living a lie, or suicide? Well this isn't about people being over dramatic, because that's exactly what happens. Dislike people for good reasons that actually effect you, and not just for some generic reason that has nothing to do with you. I do also understand that your view has a lot to do with the way you were raised, and/or the people around you, but be your own person with a moral mindset, it would make things so much easier on everyone to avoid all the nonsense. Yes, it's a lot easier said than done but NO ONE is hopeless, the problem is - most people give up and say these ignorant close minded people are hopeless, don't give up on these people, don't fight them, don't give them reasons to hate you, and I really do think it would pay off to become that stronger person.
Groups/Clicks
This is something that I have never really belonged to personally. I also think for the most part anyway this is a problem on a much smaller scale compared to the last couple topics, that eventually dissipates after leaving your high school/juvenile days behind. Yet still grouping people, labeling people, and then bashing them for ludicrous reasons is discrimination in it's child hood stages, and can still cause damage to others. I have seen first hand how the "popular crowd" really works. You're in, or you're trying your best to get in by doing everything necessary to gain acceptance. These people that try to get into these crowds usually have low confidence in themselves and will attempt to show off by insulting or belittling a different classification of person, for example "nerds", "emo", "outcasts", ext. Sometimes it could also just be the "popular" ones themselves that try to hurt others. This is considered small drama, but drama people have to live with drama as long as they go to school. So, something like this to the victim of this drama will build up over time...there's your damage. Not fitting in when you're desperate to, and being bashed by the desperate year round. I do realize high school isn't this kind of hell for everyone, but I'm speaking for whom this concerns. There will always be secrets, rumors, and backstabbing especially if you work your way up brutally, that's exactly how your "friends" and social life will be. Also another thing I would like to point out is school shootings. School shootings are often caused by these actions of immaturity. Again, if you're mean or unfair to someone consistently, it will have a terrible effect eventually. All it takes is for that person to get to their breaking point. It doesn't always have to be a school shooting, they also sometimes just kill themselves, or release their stress in many other ways. To close this up I just want to say for the wanna-be popular bitches and bastards, get over your minor insecurities, and lack of imagination or someone will get hurt!
This is all meant to help you accept the fact we are and will always be different no matter what. Understand that just because you don't share the same thoughts as another does not give you the write to try and change them, destroy them trying to, or treat them any different than the person that is a clone to your ideas. Things are getting better in time, but it wouldn't hurt to try and make this progression sooner.
People say its hard to overcome our differences, I say the reward for overcoming them should make it easy~
Also if you're a racist have you ever had that half a brain cell telling you to stop and think why you don't like different skin color so much, to just hate the person that it's on? There is not much else to say other than that, because it is just a color after all. The fact is no matter what the skin color is we are all people, we like to have fun, we love, and we dream. So if you are a racist, you are exactly like the racial dictators that have started wars. The ONLY difference is, is that most of you don't have any power to do anything with your close minded opinions.
If you're straight, do you think you are attracted to the same sex? No. So why should being homosexual, lesbian, gay, bi or what ever you want to call it be any different? It only takes common since to realize that it is just as much of a choice to be straight as it is to be gay/bi. If you think about it instead of just throwing it off as an abomination, why would people CHOOSE to risk getting bashed, disowned by their family, and the stress it must involve when in an area not open to it when "coming out"? Although there are people that probably become gay/bi because of their own life experience, (or for the lesser majority) they might do it for attention, but the majority are guaranteed to actually be gay for those who claim it. It has been around since the beginning of time. If you are still unsatisfied with that much information, and you think something as close minded as "well god wouldn't make people that way since it is a sin", or anything else, then maybe knowing that there is scientific information to support that being gay/bi is not a choice might change your mind. Being gay/bi is in the blood, BUT even if it was a choice, why can't you just let it go? Does it really hurt you that much to where you have to drive them to depression, living a lie, or suicide? Well this isn't about people being over dramatic, because that's exactly what happens. Dislike people for good reasons that actually effect you, and not just for some generic reason that has nothing to do with you. I do also understand that your view has a lot to do with the way you were raised, and/or the people around you, but be your own person with a moral mindset, it would make things so much easier on everyone to avoid all the nonsense. Yes, it's a lot easier said than done but NO ONE is hopeless, the problem is - most people give up and say these ignorant close minded people are hopeless, don't give up on these people, don't fight them, don't give them reasons to hate you, and I really do think it would pay off to become that stronger person.
This is something that I have never really belonged to personally. I also think for the most part anyway this is a problem on a much smaller scale compared to the last couple topics, that eventually dissipates after leaving your high school/juvenile days behind. Yet still grouping people, labeling people, and then bashing them for ludicrous reasons is discrimination in it's child hood stages, and can still cause damage to others. I have seen first hand how the "popular crowd" really works. You're in, or you're trying your best to get in by doing everything necessary to gain acceptance. These people that try to get into these crowds usually have low confidence in themselves and will attempt to show off by insulting or belittling a different classification of person, for example "nerds", "emo", "outcasts", ext. Sometimes it could also just be the "popular" ones themselves that try to hurt others. This is considered small drama, but drama people have to live with drama as long as they go to school. So, something like this to the victim of this drama will build up over time...there's your damage. Not fitting in when you're desperate to, and being bashed by the desperate year round. I do realize high school isn't this kind of hell for everyone, but I'm speaking for whom this concerns. There will always be secrets, rumors, and backstabbing especially if you work your way up brutally, that's exactly how your "friends" and social life will be. Also another thing I would like to point out is school shootings. School shootings are often caused by these actions of immaturity. Again, if you're mean or unfair to someone consistently, it will have a terrible effect eventually. All it takes is for that person to get to their breaking point. It doesn't always have to be a school shooting, they also sometimes just kill themselves, or release their stress in many other ways. To close this up I just want to say for the wanna-be popular bitches and bastards, get over your minor insecurities, and lack of imagination or someone will get hurt!
This is all meant to help you accept the fact we are and will always be different no matter what. Understand that just because you don't share the same thoughts as another does not give you the write to try and change them, destroy them trying to, or treat them any different than the person that is a clone to your ideas. Things are getting better in time, but it wouldn't hurt to try and make this progression sooner.
People say its hard to overcome our differences, I say the reward for overcoming them should make it easy~
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